It’s been an interesting experiment to test out an idea of mine via social networking. It’s surprising ( ok disappointing) to see how many people who regard themselves as innovators are actually extraordinarily conservative in their thinking. I suppose it’s all about being English- lots of ‘yes but’ responses and ( even worse in my view) a few of the ‘if it could be done or would have been’ responses. I veer from thinking ‘ok then I’ll shut up’ to thinking ‘sod you I will carry on’, and the latter isn’t always a result of wine intake I promise.
I don’t think so. I would love to develop a product that enabled people to fund the help they needed if their relationship fails.Apparently this is against public policy as it’s seen as disincentive to marriage. Why so? What I am thinking of is a policy which covers the costs of lawyers and ( far more importantly in my utterly biased view) therapists and family consultants, in the event of a divorce. If the couple stay married then why can’t they be rewarded with an endowment payout at the end of the term of the policy? This is surely a pragmatic, grounded solution to the dilemma many couples find themselves in when they split: they know they need high quality professional help, but they are also in financial crisis. They often resort to ‘quickie’ online services and ignore their therapeutic needs entirely. And usually the people who suffer most from the emotional fallout are their children.
In my ideal divorce scenario, such insurance would be compulsory- simply part of the necessary legalities of getting married. Unromantic? No – this has nothing to do with romance. For those couples who genuinely believe they will be together forever I say good luck. For those however, who read the statistics, why wouldn’t they choose to insure against a 40% possibility?
I thought if I publish it here I have to do it ( am a sucker for peer pressure): so I hereby promise I shall blog every day of 2013. I can’t promise great quality, insight or wit. I can promise honesty though! I think it’s time that a psychotherapist tells the truth- I am heartily sick of the sugar coated ‘ you can be whatever you want to be’ guff which takes therapists sound like snake oil salesmen. You will read about my work here and you will see my fallibility and struggles. This is absolutely not a marketing tool; this is about showing the world what it is really like to be a therapist.
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